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Online Dating Tips For Beginners

Online dating can feel overwhelming. There are a million different apps to choose from and, while it may seem straightforward, there are subtle nuances that many beginners may not pick up on. Online dating tips for beginners can help when just starting out. 

What Does Everyone Else Know That I Don’t?

Most dating apps include a section for photos and bio. This means you take a few pictures of yourself and write in the basics, right? Not necessarily.

4 Tips To Get You Started

  1. Photos can be deceiving. Why don’t images accurately represent the person? Most of the time, it’s insecurity. Many people, both men and women, retouch photos online despite how attractive they really are. Does this mean if you decide to go on a date with someone that they might not look like the person on their profile? Possibly. But more often than not, they might just look a little less polished. 
  2. Photos take time. A lot of dating sites rely heavily on image. Even apps that mostly focus on personality and bio still depend on a photo section. There are some basic tips for how to capture a good photo without using editing software. Phone timers and lighting can make all the difference. 
  3. Many people do not respond right away. This doesn’t mean they aren’t interested. Because people text and chat differently, there are many variables to take into account. The the time of day, type of app and even the basic style of communication can all impact response time. 
  4. Don’t leave your bio blank. It may be tempting to leave a bio blank or even mostly blank, but this is usually a mistake. While it is true that you can share the real details once you’re actually texting or talking, you might not get to that point without at least a hint of who you are.

A Poorly Made Profile Does Not Reflect You

There are several online dating tips for beginners that can help you avoid the learning curve. An unsuccessful dating profile is not hard to fix if you know where to begin. 


Easy Tinder Bio Questions

Once you’ve matched, the hard part starts – how to strike up a conversation. “Hey, what’s up?” won’t cut it.

To start the ball rolling, humor is often a successful technique. By having at least one funny question in your bio, you can relieve some of the pressure. Open ended questions work well as they’re more likely to be conversation starters, not one and done awkward Q&As.

Sample Tinder bio questions

  • These have all been tested and work – feel free to grab one, or modify it and make it your own (don’t forget to fill in the ____ blanks).
  • What’s the worst place you’ve been taken on a first date?
  • What’s your best Dad joke?
  • What would your friends say is your strangest quirk? Mine… well, you’ll have to ask.
  • What photo do you think I almost added to my profile but didn’t? (hint: _____)
  • What’s the dumbest thing you’ve done while drunk? I tried to ride an emu once.
  • One of my photos is Photoshopped… can you guess which one?

What about Bumble?

On Bumble she has to go first – you’re not allowed to send the first chat. So having a funny question in your Bumble bio is even more important than on Tinder. Many matches expire without the woman sending a message, not because she isn’t interested, but because she doesn’t have a good opening line!

If you include a funny Bumble bio question, you’re more likely that she’ll reach out before your match expires, and avoid the dreaded “Hey.” opening line from her that then puts the onus on you to come up with a way to start the conversation.


The 3 Most Common Bad Tinder Photos

There are 3 photographs that men have made famous since dating apps like Tinder and Bumble became photocentric. It’s not that these are necessarily bad Tinder photos. It’s not that these photos are ugly. It’s just that they’re all the same.

When creating an online dating profile, everyone needs something unique to distinguish them from the crowd. These 3 photos are not helping:

The Group Photo.

  group photo in a bar

This is the ‘I have friends and am a fun guy’ photo. Being sociable and fun is a great quality, especially in a relationship. However, this photo is a) everywhere and b) not useful when deciphering who the man-in-question is c) makes it look like you party/drink too much.

The Athletic Photo.

Guy at Machu Picchu

This is the picture that’s shot in profile while climbing a rock, hiking or swimming. It’s nice to show hobbies, but again – everyone has this photo. Also, why is it always Machu Picchu?

The Suit Selfie.

Guy in a suit taking a selfie

The suit selfie is usually shot at a friend’s wedding. It’s a good way to showcase the professional look, but it can also inadvertently capture a pressure to get married. You want to show that you clean up well and can be taken to weddings, work functions, and fancy events, but not look too serious.

Photos are not the only thing that goes into a profile, but it is the first thing women see on apps like Bumble or Tinder. Standing out doesn’t have to be a production, but it does have to create a difference. Now that you’ve seen some of the most common Tinder profile photos, the question is how to create profile photos that will stand apart, get noticed, and get right swipes. Read up on how to create the best Tinder profile photos.


Tips for chatting on Tinder

Landing a date during your first chat on Tinder

Making a match is only the first step. Once you’ve got a connection on Tinder you need to open the conversation in a way that will stand apart – chances are she has a lot of guys matched and all trying to get her attention. Pay attention to the details – she will. A little bit of effort here will go a long way in making your match worthwhile and improving your chances of landing a first date with your match.

Chatting on Tinder in the Morning

Follow these tips for chatting on Tinder to improve your odds.

  • Girls want to feel special. If you go into it thinking it’s a numbers game, they can tell. Pick up on small details about her and ask her follow-up questions. Abstract questioning Think about a topic based on how you can steer it toward feelings. 
  • Use an opening question for your profile that is different from others. If she can reply with an answer, you have an instant starting point. Base it around a value you find important. This is a critical step for successful chatting on tinder.
  • When asking someone on a date, it’s nice to say you have somewhere to be in an hour or two. This way, the pressure to have sex is completely off for the woman, freeing her up to be more flirty and test the waters. (girls like a chase too. Especially ones who aren’t used to chasing).

These are only the basics. And remember that chatting on Tinder is very different than chatting on other dating sites (like chatting on Coffee Meets Bagel). Stay tuned for more advanced tips and techniques on how to get the conversation going, keep it going, and land a date. Swiping on Tinder is only the first step…